There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.

This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.

However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.

1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. These jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.

3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.

Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore makes her want you more are just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!

If you know how to attract girls, then chasing women won’t be necessary as they will come to you. When a woman is chasing you instead of the other way around, it is much easier to be relaxed and have a good time instead of concentrating on what to do next. So what attracts people, and more specifically girls? Things that are out of the ordinary. If you blend in with the rest of the world, then no one will ever notice you walking down the street, or in any location for that matter. How do most people blend? By following what everyone else does and this leads to catastrophic results when trying to attract women.

Being a follower is boring and speaks a lot about your personality. It shows that you are insecure to try new things and that you don’t want attention. Now the trick to being noticed is not to dress up in bright yellow colors, but to add one interesting item to your physical appearance. There are a few guidelines to selecting the proper attire that will attract women without making you look like a fool.

First steps to being more attractive.

Firstly, take into consideration what kind of social setting you will be in. If you’re going to a club, then you can go all out with outlandish clothing and accessories. However, if you’re going to the library, it would be more effective to carefully choose one single attention drawing accessory. For clubs, keep in mind that you want to look different than everyone else. If everyone else is dressed up with expensive clothing, then wearing something cheap will work better. You’ll automatically be classified as the ‘guy who doesn’t care’, which can be very attractive.

If you’re at a place where people are dressed like bums, then feel free to dress up a little more and you’ll automatically be seen as ‘the only classy guy’ in the place. Sometimes clothing itself can make a large enough difference, however accessories can further improve your magnetism throughout the day. Something unique that represents you is the ideal thing. Let’s say you enjoy biking, and then you could have a necklace with a bicycle on it for instance. Then, in a social situation, people will notice and comment on your accessories. The more out-of-the-ordinary your accessories are, the more you will get noticed. However, you must be able to continue the conversation and match the boldness of your accessory with your personality.

Once you learned how to attract girls, you’ll need to learn how to keep them. The attitude that you have is more important than all the clothes, money and looks in the world. Its cliche, but personality is more important to women than looks. In fact, there are a few secret techniques that will make you irresistible to women regardless of appearance.

It’s truly not that hard to learn how to seduce a girl if you know a few good methods. The art of distracting a woman from all of your shortcomings and making her fall in love with you for who you are is called seduction. Read these below steps to find out how to do it.

Step 1:

Stay close by without being creepy. If you are in a bar and you send a girl a drink, don’t hover by her table and stare at her until she either looks away or speaks to you. You should send her the drink and then when it is delivered, nod and smile in her direction and continue with her conversation.

Step 2:

If she does not approach you, then you should wait a few minutes and then walk up to her,

Step 3:

Begin a conversation with her that focuses on her and not on you. If she thinks you are hanging on her every word, she will not want you to leave. Make lots of eye contact.

Step 4:

Stay close by. Brush her hand every now and then during the conversation, letting her know that you would like more physical contact.

Step 5:

Be direct at the end of the conversation. Tell her that you have enjoyed talking to her so much that you would love to continue talking over coffee. If she says yes, you can then leave the bar with her, spend more time with her and get her number..or maybe even take her home.

These are just some of many begin steps on how to seduce the beautiful girl you like quickly and effectively.